When I was pregnant with Danica is when I first really noticed it; someone in public would say something like, "wow, three girls! Do you know what this next one is?" I would reply, "it's another girl " with a smile and often the reply was something along the lines of a disappointed "oh", or a sympathetic "awe". One time I even got an "I'm sorry!". The doozy was the older lady at a craft show that blurted out, "I guess it's time to bring in the milkman, hey?"
When I got pregnant again, I knew it would happen again. That's part of what made it easier to keep the baby a secret for the first trimester...because if you know me at all, you know I have never been able to do that before!
To be honest, Daniel and I were pretty surprised to find out that we were having our fifth daughter in a row...I mean, what are the odds!? BUT, I'm starting to sense a viewpoint that people may or may not think we have about it.
When I announced the sex of this baby, I got many happy congratulations on Facebook and from our friends and family, which was wonderful and we love how happy you all are for us! But out there in the real world, where people don't know us as well and don't mind giving their unfiltered opinion, it's been a bit different.
So to clarify to those people that I'll never see again and who will never read this post....we are not continuing to have children as some sort of "lottery" that we will play until we finally get our long awaited boy.
"I guess the sixth time will have to be the charm" is one comment I've received recently that stuck with me.
I read an article awhile ago titled "The Wrong Reason To Keep Having Children" that was along those lines, and I agreed with the author wholeheartedly. It's not something we are in denial about; we are fully aware that when we get pregnant it's because we are excited to bring another child into this world, regardless of sex.
And in my honest, although biased opinion, we have "won the baby lottery" 4 times and are about to meet the fifth wonderful addition to our crazy fun crew :) We feel so blessed that we have not one, two, three or four, but FIVE opportunities to raise daughters that will add so much beauty to this world. Girls that will make other's lives better because they are generous, loving, and godly women. It's a huge order to fill, I realize that as I'm sitting here writing this with tears streaming down my face....but we are up for the challenge, and with God on our side, I'm confident that each of our girls will continue to be awesome...as awesome as I already think they are :)
Also, in my other totally biased opinion, our family has the perfect man at the helm. Nothing melts my heart quite like watching Daniel be a dad to our daughters....which is where lots of my confidence comes in. These girls are growing up knowing what a good man looks like and how he acts, and for that I am so grateful.
The only thing that is stressing me out about having another girls is picking another girl name! Lol
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Wow Jade, beautifully said. Love the part about Daniel at the helm. You guys are awesome.
ReplyDeleteThank you Holly :) that means a lot!
DeleteLove this post Jade! And THRILLED for all the beauty He is bringing into your family!!
ReplyDeleteLove it! And you all! You've put this out there beautifully. And you are welcome to name her after me ;)
ReplyDeleteCongrats on another girl! My husband was certain we'd always have girls too, so he was happy to stop at 2 lol. But even with our 2 people would make comments about "can't believe you won't try for a boy!" ....never a good idea to have a baby specifically to get one particular gender b/c it's a crap shoot each time hehe.
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